Welcome to the 40/40 Club

I am ready to embark on this new chapter of my life. I feel so different compared to 10 years ago when I was trying to calm myself into my 30s. Ten years ago, I was scared of turning 30. I felt like I had one foot in the grave.  In my mind, every year brought growth, and something must be accomplished. I had no complaints about my daily life. My health is good, my family is good, and my mental health is good. But why couldn't I shake negative Nancy's grip?

My experiences in my thirties were nothing like those in my 20s. My main focus was finishing school and becoming a new mom. The focus of my life has shifted from being a student to focusing on myself and my loved ones. During my thirties, I cried a lot and questioned so many things. If you read my previous blogs, you know it was not easy. There were many bumps and turns on my journey.

My experiences and losses did not break me; they gave me a new perspective on life. Cherish every moment and live life to the fullest. Also, do not beat yourself up when things are not going your way. Sometimes, it is necessary to pause and reset to reach your destination. When you notice things don't go as expected most of the time, you are not in the right place. Give your problems to the man upstairs. The reason why? You will have to handle the situation twice or more if you handle it yourself. I became a better person as a result of all those experiences. Although losing my grandma was the most challenging experience, I look back and appreciate the life lessons she taught me for 39 years. She was put in my life to guide me to be the better me.

As I exit my 30s, I am excited about this new chapter in my life and the person I am becoming. Stepping outside of my comfort zone is the key to this fresh chapter. I am doing all the things I want to do. Learning from my past experiences and actively shaping my life how I want it to be. In the future, I will focus on the people I love and be "the best version of myself." Memories will not be taken for granted. Memories and feelings will last a lifetime, no matter who comes and goes. Embrace every moment because you never know when things might change. In life, you can never go back. You have to keep going, pushing on whatever is thrown your way.

Happy Birthday, Ms. Jenkins. Always live your life to the fullest. Do not dim your light for anyone. I will no longer water myself down for anyone. Keep being your authentic self, and remember who you are and where you came from. Cheers to the 40/40 club.

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